For the past few weeks, I’ve been reading a book called The 7 Habits of Highly Effective people by Stephen R. Covey. This book is a goldmine for life changing paradigms. Therefore I’ve been using it as my research and inspiration to write the latest articles. Today is not an exception and I am continuing to write about habits that could potentially improve everyone’s lives.
The first two articles can be put into a modern day role analogy:
- Proactivity – Become more aware that you are the programmer.
- Begin with an end in mind – Understand that you can write a program.
While today’s article will be about how you run the program you created. It incorporates the previous articles, therefore, I recommend reading those first.
The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
When you understand those two paradigms we can explore habit three, which says “Put the first things first”. The idea of prioritising and knowing what’s important to you can really help us to use this idea. When you realise that you are responsible for all of your reactions and life achievements this whole idea can be very useful and help you to become a better version of yourself.
A proactive person controls all the actions and the outcomes of his life, a person who is also thinking about his end result can identify values and principles which he must adapt to really get there and a person who is putting first things first know how to prioritise those values and relationships to get where he wants to. So how can we prioritise important things and make them first?
First of all, we must have a direction we want to go. If you’re just floating about and going with the flow without any known direction of who you want to be or where you want to go it is going to be very hard for you to put the first things first. You have to go back to the planning stage, be very honest with yourself and set some goals. Once you have your goals and direction planned, it will become easier for you to deal with daily situations as you will know where you’re going. Imagine that you’re using a compass. The compass shows you the direction in which you want to go. Even though there might be some obstacles along the way you would still know your direction.
Secondly, we have to identify our core values and relationships that deeply matter to us. Values, principles and relationships are what drives our daily lives, we can use them to drive us forwards. You cannot be efficient or happy when you’re having an argument with someone. Therefore why do we do it? We must learn how to deal with such situations in a manner that would get closer to our lifetime goals. We should be using our principles instead of schedules when dealing with our daily lives.
Lastly, I would like to finish with a simple exercise that shows how simple it is to prioritise what’s really important. Take a piece of paper and write down 5 the most important things in the world to you. It could be such things as financial freedom, love, relationship with family, money or anything else. Once you’ve done that write down the number next to it in order from the most important to least important. Now think whether you are actually doing your best to achieve this important thing. If not, try to find out why and write down an activity that if done daily will get you closer to that achievement!
I am a big fan of scheduling my day hour by hour, but I have to be very careful doing that. I must always check whether the tasks I’ve scheduled are compliant with my values, goals and compass direction. It is very easy to get lost in the daily life noise and get distracted with not so important things in the long term. I believe that by improving ourselves now we invest in our future so I will continue to read this book and summarise more of it the future articles so that I could share it with you all.
Thanks for reading.